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Giving baby up for adoption

Information for expectant mothers

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As an expectant mother, considering giving your baby up for adoption is one of the most difficult decisions you may ever have to make. 

 

It is understandable to feel daunted by the whole process, and you may not be sure whether adoption is the right choice for you and your child. 

 

Part of the process of making this decision is to consider all options that are available to you before choosing the one that is right for you and your child.

 

Let's take a look at what to consider before placing your child for adoption, plus some common myths surrounding the adoption process.

 

  1. Placing a child for adoption: Where to start

  2. Giving baby up for adoption: Common myths explained

 

1) Placing a child for adoption: Where to start

As an expectant mother, you may well be feeling overwhelmed by the adoption process. Phrases like 'making an adoption plan' can be very daunting, right at a time when you may be feeling vulnerable and are coping with the physical and emotional changes that can occur during pregnancy.

Luckily, there is a wealth of support and information available to expectant mothers. The best place to start is by talking to a professional about your options and rights so that you can understand the process from start to finish. We can answer all of your questions without any pressure to move forward. accessing the resources of the wide range of adoption support services available. We encourage you to contact us if you are seeking help or face-to-face support from an experienced professional.

 

2) Giving baby up for adoption: Common myths explained

 

Expectant mothers often experience feelings of guilt over considering adoption, but it is important to regard this decision as choosing to create a family for your child in circumstances where you are unable to meet their needs. 

 

There are also some common misconceptions surrounding adoption, and we feel it would be beneficial to set the record straight:

"Once I've decided on adoption, I can't change my mind"

When working with an adoption agency, you may start making an adoption plan before the baby is born. However, this does not mean you are fully committed to this course of action - you can reevaluate at any point until you sign the adoption relinquishment papers. In some states, you can even reverse your decision up to two weeks after the papers are signed.

"I'll never see my child again"

Open adoptions offer the option for birth parents to stay in contact and have a relationship with their child after the adoption has been finalized. The terms of this agreement are normally talked about as part of the adoption plan and can include arrangements such as photos, texts, calls and face-to-face visits. In some states this post adoption contact agreement (PACA) can be legally binding and part of the court paperwork.

"Adoption is selfish/the easy way out"

 

In reality, nothing could be further from the truth - a parent considering placing their baby for adoption is making the ultimate sacrifice for their child. Most women considering and adoption plan are putting the needs of their child above their own. Making an adoption plan is a selfless decision and one that is incredibly difficult.

 

"My child will resent me when they grow up"

 

Of course we can never predict how adoptees will feel as they get older, we do see many adoptees have loving and beautiful relationships with their birth families throughout their lives.  Open adoption plans  allow children to grow up understanding the decisions that their birth parents made, knowing who they are and what they have inherited from their birth family, and enabling them to feel loved by both families.

If you found this article useful, you might also find this useful: Birth mother

 

  • If you are pregnant and wondering whether adoption could be the right option for you and your baby, you can contact us any time on (800)-969-6665 or by filling out this form.

 

  • Adopt International is a non-profit organization. We provide extensive support and assistance to expectant mothers and couples who are considering adoption for their child. Learn more here.

 

  • If you are a family who is considering adopting a child, learn more here.

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If you are pregnant and considering placing your baby for adoption, you deserve to have a respectful and positive experience.

 

We can help every step of the way.

Our adoption counselors can:

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Help decide if adoption is right for you

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Advise you of your rights, and connect you to resources

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Help you choose an adoptive family

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Assist you with obtaining adoption expenses

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Help you learn more about open adoption

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Support you before and after the birth of your baby

You are in control, and can choose what your adoption plan will be.

About us

At Adopt International, we believe it is important that you make this decision on your own terms and surround yourself with helpful, supportive professionals.

We have over 40 years of experience working with pregnant women, which has taught us that in order to have a successful adoption it is imperative that a birth mother is comfortable and confident in the choice she makes.

We are advocates for open adoption. Research shows it is the best kind of adoption plan for birth families, adoptive families, and adoptees.

Words from birth mothers

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“I want to thank Adopt International for all they have done for me and my daughter and her family.

 

They truly know the meaning of open adoption and making it work for us all.”

- Monica

“From the second I walked in the door I felt like I was in a very warm and supportive environment.”

- Bethany

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“You didn’t pressure me into anything.

You held my hand all the way through the process and made sure I knew everything about placing my child for adoption.

I am forever grateful for your agency.”

- Birth mother

“Well, I chose Adopt International because the awesome family I chose to be my birth daughter’s adoptive parents were already working with y’all, and when I met with y’all myself, you were so pro birth parent, understanding, and down to Earth in a situation that was straight up madness.

I have love, love, loved being in contact with y’all over time and seeing that you really do care, just like you showed me over a decade ago!”

- Myra

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¿Considerando dar en adopción? 

Si estás embarazada y consideras dar en adopción a tu bebé, mereces tener una experiencia respetuosa y positiva. Te empoderaremos para que puedes tomar la mejor decisión para usted. Tenemos trabajadoras sociales que hablan español para ayudarte y responder a tus preguntas.

 

Nuestras consejeras de adopción pueden:

  • Ayudarle a decidir si adopción es la mejor opción para ti

  • Apoyar en su decisión de criar a tu niño o por familia adoptiva.  

  • Ayudar a aprender sobre la adopción abierta. 

  • Ayudarle a elegir una familia adoptiva

  • Informarle sobre sus derechos y a poner en contacto con los servicios que se requieran. 

  • Asistirle para conseguir ayuda en los gastos de adopción. 

  • Apoyarle antes y después del nacimiento de su bebé. 

 

Usted tiene el control, y puede elegir el mejor plan de adopción que mejor le convenga

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