If your child is going to be adopted, you may have worries and concerns about the adoption process and the future well-being of your child. Here at Adopt International, we provide support and guidance to birth families affected by adoption at any stage of the process.
Let's take a look at the support available for expectant mothers and their families when considering adoption.
1) What is a birth family?
When a child has been adopted, the term ‘birth family’ is used to refer to the biological parents of a child who has been placed for adoption. Deciding to place a child for adoption is never easy, and the support of an experienced adoption professional can be invaluable for potential birth parents.
It is important to remember that the terms 'birth parent', 'birth family', and 'birth mother' are not used until the adoption process is complete. This is because the decision to place a child for adoption can be reconsidered at any point during the pregnancy and even after the birth.
Until the adoption is finalized, women and men should be referred to as the ‘expectant parents’ or ‘potential birth parents’.
2) Support for potential birth families before adoption
Expectant mothers, and, if relevant, expectant fathers can access support when considering adoption through the services of an adoption agency such as ourselves. The biological father of the child is not always involved in the adoption process, but if you are a potential birth father who is present and supports adoption for his baby, you will be encouraged to participate in the adoption process.
At Adopt International, we help expectant parents considering adoption look at all options avaible to them and if they chose adoption we are there to help you create an adoption plan. We hold your hand through every step of the adoption process, eductating you along the way and empowering you to make the decisions that are right for you. For example we will walk you through how to choose a family, how you want your hospital stay to go and what level of open adoption feels right for you. This allows you the opportunity to create a vision of the future for yourselves and your child, easing the anxiety and emotional distress that is natural when considering adoption.
We also have peer to peer support opportunities. If you think it could feel helpful to talk to someone who has been in your shoes we can arrange a phone call or coffee date. We also have resources for therapists who specialize in adoption. Sometimes talking to a therapist can add another lay of support for you during this stressful time. And sometimes reconnecting with your adoption counselor over lunch or coffee to talk about an upcoming visit or how to talk to a new partner about your adoption feels supportive and helpful. Our services to you are lifelong.
3) Birth families - what happens after adoption?
In an open adoption, contact between the birth family, adoptive family, and child will have been agreed upon as part of the adoption plan.
We are strong advocates for open adoptions, as adopted children often benefit from connection with their birth families. By choosing an open adoption, you can be reassured that your child will grow up in contact with both their birth and adoptive families.
It is natural for birth families to experience feelings of grief and loss after the adoption takes place. Support groups and counseling services can often be very helpful during this difficult time, enabling birth parents to process their feelings and develop healthy coping strategies. We have compiled a comprehensive list of additional resources [ such as online support or face-to-face counseling.
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If you are pregnant and wondering whether adoption could be the right option for you and your baby, you can contact us any time on (800)-969-6665 or by filling out this form.
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Adopt International is a non-profit organization. We provide extensive support and assistance to expectant mothers who are considering adoption for their child. Learn more here.
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If you are a family who is considering adopting a child, learn more here.
If you are pregnant and considering placing your baby for adoption, you deserve to have a respectful and positive experience.
We can help every step of the way.
You are in control, and can choose what your adoption plan will be.
About us
At Adopt International, we believe it is important that you make this decision on your own terms and surround yourself with helpful, supportive professionals.
We have over 40 years of experience working with pregnant women, which has taught us that in order to have a successful adoption it is imperative that a birth mother is comfortable and confident in the choice she makes.
We are advocates for open adoption. Research shows it is the best kind of adoption plan for birth families, adoptive families, and adoptees.
Words from birth mothers

“I want to thank Adopt International for all they have done for me and my daughter and her family.
They truly know the meaning of open adoption and making it work for us all.”
- Monica
“From the second I walked in the door I felt like I was in a very warm and supportive environment.”
- Bethany


“You didn’t pressure me into anything.
You held my hand all the way through the process and made sure I knew everything about placing my child for adoption.
I am forever grateful for your agency.”
- Birth mother
“Well, I chose Adopt International because the awesome family I chose to be my birth daughter’s adoptive parents were already working with y’all, and when I met with y’all myself, you were so pro birth parent, understanding, and down to Earth in a situation that was straight up madness.
I have love, love, loved being in contact with y’all over time and seeing that you really do care, just like you showed me over a decade ago!”
- Myra

¿Considerando dar en adopción?
Si estás embarazada y consideras dar en adopción a tu bebé, mereces tener una experiencia respetuosa y positiva. Te empoderaremos para que puedes tomar la mejor decisión para usted. Tenemos trabajadoras sociales que hablan español para ayudarte y responder a tus preguntas.
Nuestras consejeras de adopción pueden:
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Ayudarle a decidir si adopción es la mejor opción para ti
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Apoyar en su decisión de criar a tu niño o por familia adoptiva.
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Ayudar a aprender sobre la adopción abierta.
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Ayudarle a elegir una familia adoptiva
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Informarle sobre sus derechos y a poner en contacto con los servicios que se requieran.
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Asistirle para conseguir ayuda en los gastos de adopción.
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Apoyarle antes y después del nacimiento de su bebé.
Usted tiene el control, y puede elegir el mejor plan de adopción que mejor le convenga











